Let me tell you, I quickly learned that the single dads were, in general, the best guys I met. Parents are super protective of their kids (think about your mom and dad).They were kind, patient, considerate, and frankly, not self-centered jerks. Introducing a new person to a child’s life is a serious thing.Not to mention, you are both employed in some way or another and have a multitude of life, family and work commitments to work around. As your relationship grows you will become a priority, but when it’s new, you will be second fiddle to his kids.It’s hard enough to date as an “adult”, but throw in someone else’s child or children and, whoa! While dating, I met and spent time with a few single dads and some single guys with no children. And, if you are OK with that, and understand his commitment, he will respect you and be willing to give more of his time to you.Don’t miss the exciting conclusion of this single dad’s journey: A Dad In Love, Again (I’ve got two kids and a full-time job, but I’d still like to find time to be with someone.) 1. I will admit that getting back out there, for me, as a man, initially was about sex. (Kids, work, and all the other stuff we’re just remembering we love to do) have to be the priority. That might be a stretch if you’re playing the field, or not sure about what you want. By the time we get past 1st-base I’m letting you know that I am into you.
And because first impressions are everything, and because their time is limited, they will want to wait until you won’t be scared right out the door.They may have some ketchup or other undistinguishable stains on their sleeves that they didn’t notice. This is totally normal and something you will eventually find to be very sexy. Raise their kids, and maintain a home, and support their families. Trust me, they don’t want to be and they did their best not to be, but there is just not *quite* enough time in any day to get it all done.Sometimes, it is everything they can do to get out the door to come see you in the first place. Next, you should know that they will probably not want to take you back to their place for quite some time. 1) they really don’t want their kids meeting any new person in their life until they are sure it is going to last a long while.As a single dad wading back into the dating pool, Daniel Ruyter was surprised how many women lost interest when he revealed, always in the first conversation, that he had a son."At first I took it personally," said the Orlando, Fla., information technology analyst, who was 32 when he divorced and got joint custody of his then 5-year-old son."I found it very arbitrary that before they got to know me, they had decided against me." But as Ruyter cycled through "close to 100" first dates and a few long-term girlfriends (a scheduling feat, considering half his week was devoted to his son), his romantic standards heightened in ways they may not have pre-fatherhood.Either make it easy for them and tell them you appreciate environments that leave you fearing for your health, or invite them to your place for a snuggle and a movie.